There is a truly beautiful thing that happens when we stop forging ahead or holding back – when we come into the present moment without all our stories that push or prevent. Love. This is the essence of who we are and can always be found when everything else drops away. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve known each other, how much we agree or how many miles are between us. It’s here to be deeply felt and fully shared.
This unconditional love is here for us too, every time we are willing to look in the mirror without the distorting fog created by our stories about past offenses, present judgments or future imagined concerns or consequences.
As many of you know I have been on this planet for 60 years and for at least 35 of those years I’ve been assisting wonderful people (and myself) in creating the lives we most want.
In the beginning I thought we all wanted different things. Now I realize we all simply want to feel good…to feel love. We may define it differently. We may use different words to describe the feeling. We may think different things cause us to feel that way.
I don’t believe our greatest pain is when someone acts in a manner that we experience as unloving. I believe it is when we create reasons to withhold our own love. In those times we’re squeezing off the flow of our life force. We’re disallowing ourselves to feel the very essence of whom we are and unintentionally forgetting how immensely powerful and exquisitely beautiful we are.
Maya Angelou said, “The greatest gift we can give another person is to light up when they enter the room.” I wonder what could happen in 2010 if, above all else, we give the gift that doesn’t need a box or wrapping paper? What if we freely give our hearts? What if we take in fully and love those we are with, no matter who they are, what they’ve done to us or not done for us, no matter where they are in theirs lives? What if we allow our love to flow full strength and do not make it dependent on their responsiveness or any conditions? I wonder how it would affect us, as well as them? I wonder what 2010 would be like if we gave this same gift of love-in-all-condition to ourselves? Just maybe our presence would be a light in the world that is brought to the moments of darkness.
With every thought, word and deed we leave something behind. We get to choose whether we leave a legacy of impossibility or possibility, judgment or acceptance, of struggle or grace, tears or laughter, of worry or trust, fear or love. What is in your heart to leave as a legacy during this year? What is in your heart to leave as a legacy right now?
Together, let’s make 2010 a 10 year.